What Are Three Things to Never Do with a Patient with Dementia?

A patient with dementia and a caregiver are sitting next to each other on a couch

Caring for a dementia patient requires patience and sensitivity. Here are three key things you should never do:


  1. Never Argue or Correct Them
    Trying to convince a person with dementia that they’re wrong can cause frustration or anxiety. Instead, redirect the conversation or validate their feelings.

  2. Never Ask, “Do You Remember?”
    This can embarrass or upset them.
    Avoid testing their memory, instead, focus on comforting conversation or shared activities.

  3. Never Ignore Their Emotional Cues
    Dismissing fear, sadness, or anger may escalate behavior. Acknowledge emotions and respond with calm reassurance.

Respect, compassion, and routine are critical. Understanding these boundaries helps maintain trust and comfort.

At Heisinger Bluffs, our memory care team is trained to provide compassionate support that honors each resident’s dignity.


Frequently Asked Questions

  • Is it okay to lie to someone with dementia?

    Therapeutic fibbing may be used gently to reduce distress in some cases.

  • How should I handle aggression?

    Stay calm, give space, and try to identify triggers.

  • Can music help with dementia symptoms?

    Yes, familiar music can soothe, spark memories, and improve mood.


Sources:

  1. https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/blog/language-dementia-what-not-to-say
  2. https://www.nccdp.org/caregiver-tips-20-things-not-to-say-to-someone-with-dementia/
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